Giving yourself permission

Those women of a certain age will understand the need for permission - to be told that it’s okay to feel the way we do, to want what we want and to want more. Many of us grew up wanting to please our teachers, to please our parents, and to do what was expected. We were told that if we followed a certain set of rules we would be allowed in. As it turns out, the systems doing that gatekeeping are not run by women and rarely are encouraging.

Do you need someone to say it’s alright to wear that crop top? Because most fashion magazines wouldn’t advise it for someone your age and yet, if you want to wear the crop top, then by all means, let yourself do it. 

Other ways to give yourself permission...

You have permission to feel all the things. You don’t need anyone to weigh in. You can let yourself experience the divorce and all the complex feelings it brings up. Grief can take different forms in people so be open to all the ways that it might show up. It's also okay to feel joy during this time, so remember to allow the good feelings in as well.