Movement to help you cope

There are no shortage of hard times during a divorce and some of those times will feel overwhelming. What’s a girl to do if she feels herself starting to spin out, or her friends aren’t answering the phone, or she’s simply tired of talking? It can be tempting to indulge the goblin, whether that’s staying in bed and pulling a blanket over our head or shutting out the world and ignoring what’s bothering us. While there are definitely times to do that (dark winter days I’m looking at you), another option is to get your body moving.

“If you want to get your day going, then get your body going. It’s harder for the mind to be sluggish when the body is moving.” – James Clear

It turns out, as we’ve all known since we were kids, movement is excellent at making us feel better. It’s in our bones and muscle fibers and cell linings. Think back to running on the playground, chasing a sibling, or riding a bike. Even if things were falling apart at home or in school, you could get some joy out of playing. And playing is really just a fun version of moving.

Unfortunately, the playing can become harder as we get older, so how can you get more movement into your life? Especially at a time when we need that outlet more than ever?

Ways to incorporate more movement

Make it easy. Movement doesn’t have to be organized or planned, although we do love taking a class. You don’t need any special tools or equipment or gear. No necessary clothing or required classes or sharing it on Instagram. You can just move however you feel like it. I know we all rediscovered our love of walking during the pandemic, but I’ve honestly never regretted going on a walk. And I live in Ireland, where a rainy walk is a secret delight.

Be intentional. Create opportunities for movement. Take a walk around the inside of the building, or even better, take a walk around the outside of the building. Use meetings as a chance to stand. Or, if you really want to up the challenge, suggest a walking meeting. See what you and your team can come up with while strolling.

Move a muscle, change a thought.” – an old AA saying

Dance. Scientific research has shown that dancing is the best exercise to combat depression and who are we to argue with science. So dance. It doesn’t have to look any certain way or take place on an established dancefloor. Bathrooms are good but kitchens are better. Dance with others if you want (tip: kids love this) or by yourself. 

My personal favorite dance spot? At my standing desk. Oh yes. You thought I was standing here because it helped my productivity or my spine or was ergonomic. No, I work at a standing desk because it allows me to dance anytime. It makes me very happy and I’d like to think it helps my work. What I’m saying is dance. Dance like your strict father is about to take away your right to do it.

Get creative. Just because you work in an office doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take opportunities to move. I like to take the stairs whenever possible, which used to make for awkward office dynamics. Coming back from lunch I’d head for the stairs and some of the braver (and more fit) coworkers would join me. The others would look at aghast, shake their heads and stand there for the elevator as if I’m the crazy one.

Make your move, however you see fit, and make it a way of life. You’ll be glad you did and you’ll keep the goblin at bay for another day.